Be Confident

We all have a story about how we failed miserably at something in front of a large group of people. The story which justifies why we are shy, timid or nervous around other people -or in other words, why we are not as confident as we should be. After reading this, you won't have that any more. I am not saying your terrible memory will disappear from your mind. I am saying that you will not be able to use it as an excuse. Let me explain myself, this article is about why and how you not only can be confident, but why you deserve to be confident. 

First of all it is important to distinguish being confident from being entitled. Confidence is about knowing you're worth as much as those around you whereas being entitled implies thinking of yourself as someone superior and that is not something you want to be doing. It is common knowledge that no one likes cocky people but admire confidence.

Now, let's start talking about that story, yes, the famous one about the most embarrassing moment in your life. You might not have been able to "own it" at the moment, but I strongly suggest to take it upon yourself to re-live the whole moment and then end on a positive note which would consist in you walking off like someone who knows they're so much more than an embarrassment. Because you are. 

In fact, you should never have a reason to cringe when you think of yourself. If you are awkward around people, then it is okay. Imagine how dull this place we call Earth would be without a little diversity in our communication. The truth is that we all hide little insecurities that grow if you let them. There is no need to fear being judged because no one can be perfect. You will be judged all your life and the only way to feel great in your own skin is to accept that fact and teach yourself to be above all of it. You can be confident because you are your own person, because you have a depth in you that no one else does, the reason why a life is so valuable is because of the mind that hides behind the body. 

As to how you can be confident, it is actually quite simple. It shows in your attitude. Being confident has nothing to do with changing your personality because confident introverts do exist, it has to do with the way you chose to react when you are on the spot. Trust your instincts. If you ever feel like crawling back to your safe place which basically consists of doubting yourself, your friends and not speaking when you want to, stop. Think for a second what that sort of behaviour does for you. It does not help you, it will not make you feel any better. If your friends like you, it is for who you are, so do not be afraid to show your true self. Do no doubt their love for you when you love them too. Then, start thinking about how challenging yourself, and leaving your comfort zone for one of confidence can work in your favour. You will be able to seize the opportunities that are given to you, you will be able to become a leader, someone respected for knowing themselves and standing by themselves. If you happen to be in a destructive relationship with a family member, or a friend or anyone, confidence will give you the strength to stand up for yourself once and for all.
So there it is, why and how you can be confident by owning that terrible story which always pops up in your head in moments of pure awkwardness. What I will be concluding for my future self: Don't go to that hole where you question everything and the very reason why someone might appreciate you. It is a vicious circle, and since you know how to be confident I'll let you guess what mentality you need to adopt.