We rarely want to move on. That's what makes it so difficult. However, moving on is part of life and the whole process of perpetual evolution that comes with it. I am currently in the midst of a huge change in dynamics, I have moved to a different continent and my lifestyle has had a dramatic change in momentum. I love my new life yet I feel like I have not yet mourned my old one.
Trying to move on, like many other abstract things in life, is not an easy thing to grasp and execute. So far I have been able to realise that it is not just about accepting the new, it is also about understanding that there are things we cannot and will never be able to control. Little things, like what our parents might want to have for dinner and more important things such as how someone might interpret what you say and who you are. We are obsessed about living together in an idealistically peaceful reality, which can only happen through each other's acknowledgement of our relevance in this world. Nevertheless, this is not happening any time soon, so we might as well grow whilst grasping the fact that what people feel, think and perceive when it comes to us only has so much meaning.
Moving on from an old life, a friendship or a relationship is always a long process of understanding that we can only control so much. It is about remembering that the only person who will be by our side all our life is ourself and that we might as well forgive ourselves, encourage ourselves and push ourselves to be fulfilled with what we have at the moment.
What I have at the moment is a privileged life in a beautiful place with kind, smart and exciting people. What I have at the moment is a healthy family, a safe place to sleep at night and my own well-being. What I have is hope, joy and the will to be happy. Writing this short article has shown me that I can move on and most importantly that it is okay not to heal immediately. Evolution takes time, so does building a fulfilled life.
